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Saturday, February 21, 2009
Holiday on sunday with my family
Time that most was liked by me was holiday time family together. After the work for 6 days finally had arrived on sunday that wait. I and my family visited the available tourist attraction in my city, it is Malang. Malang city is second largest and famous city in east Java after Surabaya. Malang City located ±90 Km south from Surabaya Width area ± 11.006 Ha consist of highlands and mountainious area 440-667 above sea level (dpl). Has Historical Place, unique architecture, art and culture. Integrated with area surrounds Malang city, such as Malang regency and Batu City (Malang Raya). Plenty of tourist attractions, but especially this sunday I visited the tourist attraction that had a name Taman Senaputra (Senaputra Park). Taman Senaputra (Senaputra Park) on Jalan Belakang RSUD Syaiful Anwar is the recreational area of the city with the playground for children, traditional art performance like "Jaran Kepang and mask Dance" held continously.
Saturday, February 14, 2009
Islam Elevates the Woman's Status ?
A friend of mine is in a marriage where the husband preaches that in Islam,
1)The husband is the "King" of the household.
2)His duty is solely to provide for the financial needs of the family.
3) The wife and children cannot question his decisions or ask where he is going or why he needs to go out.
4) The wife must be obedient to her husband and serve him well.
5) The wife cannot go any where, even to get groceries, without the husband's permission.
6) the wife cannot answer back her husband in a defiant or reproachful manner.
So every day, my friend is cooped in the house... her husband comes home from work, spends about an hour at home ... then he goes out... and returns very late at night or in the early mornings and this happens every day of the week.. and on weekends he refuses to bring the family out saying he is too tired and just wants to laze at home...
If the wifes questions where he goes or what he does... she will be reproached as being a bad muslim wife...
The wife is highly educated with a U degree.. was holding a top managerial post befor marriage...but now has become subservient when she became a Muslim wife...
Is this correct ???
Whether in a Muslim or non Muslim marriage, I feel RESENTMENT ... is one of the main cause of relationships drifting apart.. ..specially resentment that has been harboured for too long.
It starts as a dissapointment...
If nothing is done about it, it turns to disgust....
Then, if still left unattended, it turns to anger ....
And if no effort is made to discuss or voice the matter out, then it becomes irreversible and by that time the couple would have drifted too far apart to hope for reconciliation... for by then they would have become like strangers to each other...
Happy are the couples who can be frank and open with each other .. who are able to view adverse comments constructively and not let their ego get in the way...
No hope for the couples in a relationship where the husband insists superiority at all times .. and worse still .. when he says that he did not make the rules.. Islam made the rules for the husband !!
1)The husband is the "King" of the household.
2)His duty is solely to provide for the financial needs of the family.
3) The wife and children cannot question his decisions or ask where he is going or why he needs to go out.
4) The wife must be obedient to her husband and serve him well.
5) The wife cannot go any where, even to get groceries, without the husband's permission.
6) the wife cannot answer back her husband in a defiant or reproachful manner.
So every day, my friend is cooped in the house... her husband comes home from work, spends about an hour at home ... then he goes out... and returns very late at night or in the early mornings and this happens every day of the week.. and on weekends he refuses to bring the family out saying he is too tired and just wants to laze at home...
If the wifes questions where he goes or what he does... she will be reproached as being a bad muslim wife...
The wife is highly educated with a U degree.. was holding a top managerial post befor marriage...but now has become subservient when she became a Muslim wife...
Is this correct ???
Whether in a Muslim or non Muslim marriage, I feel RESENTMENT ... is one of the main cause of relationships drifting apart.. ..specially resentment that has been harboured for too long.
It starts as a dissapointment...
If nothing is done about it, it turns to disgust....
Then, if still left unattended, it turns to anger ....
And if no effort is made to discuss or voice the matter out, then it becomes irreversible and by that time the couple would have drifted too far apart to hope for reconciliation... for by then they would have become like strangers to each other...
Happy are the couples who can be frank and open with each other .. who are able to view adverse comments constructively and not let their ego get in the way...
No hope for the couples in a relationship where the husband insists superiority at all times .. and worse still .. when he says that he did not make the rules.. Islam made the rules for the husband !!
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Showing posts with label family. Show all posts
Showing posts with label family. Show all posts
Time that most was liked by me was holiday time family together. After the work for 6 days finally had arrived on sunday that wait. I and my family visited the available tourist attraction in my city, it is Malang. Malang city is second largest and famous city in east Java after Surabaya. Malang City located ±90 Km south from Surabaya Width area ± 11.006 Ha consist of highlands and mountainious area 440-667 above sea level (dpl). Has Historical Place, unique architecture, art and culture. Integrated with area surrounds Malang city, such as Malang regency and Batu City (Malang Raya). Plenty of tourist attractions, but especially this sunday I visited the tourist attraction that had a name Taman Senaputra (Senaputra Park). Taman Senaputra (Senaputra Park) on Jalan Belakang RSUD Syaiful Anwar is the recreational area of the city with the playground for children, traditional art performance like "Jaran Kepang and mask Dance" held continously.
A friend of mine is in a marriage where the husband preaches that in Islam,
1)The husband is the "King" of the household.
2)His duty is solely to provide for the financial needs of the family.
3) The wife and children cannot question his decisions or ask where he is going or why he needs to go out.
4) The wife must be obedient to her husband and serve him well.
5) The wife cannot go any where, even to get groceries, without the husband's permission.
6) the wife cannot answer back her husband in a defiant or reproachful manner.
So every day, my friend is cooped in the house... her husband comes home from work, spends about an hour at home ... then he goes out... and returns very late at night or in the early mornings and this happens every day of the week.. and on weekends he refuses to bring the family out saying he is too tired and just wants to laze at home...
If the wifes questions where he goes or what he does... she will be reproached as being a bad muslim wife...
The wife is highly educated with a U degree.. was holding a top managerial post befor marriage...but now has become subservient when she became a Muslim wife...
Is this correct ???
Whether in a Muslim or non Muslim marriage, I feel RESENTMENT ... is one of the main cause of relationships drifting apart.. ..specially resentment that has been harboured for too long.
It starts as a dissapointment...
If nothing is done about it, it turns to disgust....
Then, if still left unattended, it turns to anger ....
And if no effort is made to discuss or voice the matter out, then it becomes irreversible and by that time the couple would have drifted too far apart to hope for reconciliation... for by then they would have become like strangers to each other...
Happy are the couples who can be frank and open with each other .. who are able to view adverse comments constructively and not let their ego get in the way...
No hope for the couples in a relationship where the husband insists superiority at all times .. and worse still .. when he says that he did not make the rules.. Islam made the rules for the husband !!
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